Was reading Jeff Nelsen's "Fearless Performance" email today and saw connections between it and this quote from "The HoHo DoJo" by Dr. Billy Strean....and saw the connection to readings last summer from "The Talent Code" by Daniel Coyle - all about commitment, attachment, failure and my curiosity around "Finding grace to forgive myself when my best in the moment is not what I had hoped for". Commitment/attachment and accepting results/expectation.
Dr Billy Strean is a sports coach and is curious about outcome based teams - which have short lived "success"...seemingly unsustainable and teams which seem to be having fun, but without desired outcome. His investigation is around having both - sustained commitment to goals and enjoying oneself in the process. (The Dance with Flow)
"Until one is committed, there is hesitancy, the chance to draw back, always ineffectiveness."
From Dr Billy Strean
"When one is committed to a result, and the result is not achieved, one gets curious about the gap and makes adjustments to move closer to the result. On the other hand, attachment is a kind of emotional investment, where is has to go a particular way. When one is attached to a result, and the result is not achieved, one gets upset. In the moment of not getting what was clung to, one might abandon the goal. Commitment creates energy and assists the ability to be light-hearted when moving toward a desired object." p.42.
"Another way to be free when striving is to have a powerful relationship with failure. (i.e.,) de-personalize failure. When we separate who we are from what we do, we can see failure as simply not achieving a goal. Supporting the non-attachment, we can see that a failure comes from something that was missing in being and/or doing. Failure is an opportunity to learn and adjust toward achieving an outcome".p.43